Keywords: try your best, failure, positive attitude Article Body: I always say to my children, as long as you try your best, there is no such thing as failure. I believe this one hundred percent and it is a philosophy I am trying to install into my kids. When I worked in the insurance industry, I used to sit the insurance examinations. Then not only will you have your abuser to contend with, but now others will be trying to force you into another victim situation. Yes, you have done whatever it took to survive this horrible abuse, so now rise above it. It was nothing more than a cause and effect battle. A battle that you have over come! They also took him on several outings to the park, children's museum, McDonalds and so on. However after the grandparents had departed I asked Noah about the best part of the visit. He thought for a moment and said: "Going for a walk with Grandpa and seeing the dead possum." The dead possum is located on a route we follow pretty regularly for our walks and we have watched the decomposition process with interest. We think that we are reacting to the present situation, but what is really happening is that the old, unhealed abandonment wound has been touched off. We might find ourselves suddenly enraged or falling apart with intense tears. Our reaction seems too big for the situation, yet we cannot seem to stop the inner pain. Changing thinking When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body's stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress. You'll feel better -- and so will the recipient of your kindness.</P> <P>1. Send at least one e-mail a day telling someone: <LI>how much they are appreciated</LI> <LI>thanking them for something they did for you</LI> <LI>telling them something you like about them</LI> <LI>You can also send beautiful, encouraging e-cards, by visiting http://www.