The attitude you carry reflects on your appearance, too unless, of course, you are a great actor. And it doesn't end there. Your attitude can also affect people around you. The type of attitude you carry depends on you. It can be either positive or negative. Positive thoughts have a filling effect. They are admittedly invigorating. Those who are inspired show creativity in some area of of their work, because they want to improve the work efficiency. Uninspired souls will only wait for the day to get over while inspired ones always feel good and creative doing their work. If you have found a work that inspires you, you are very lucky, otherwise it is time to find your true vocation and get satisfaction. <b>Does the path you're on give you energy just thinking about it? Then follow it.</b> If it doesn't, consider a new direction. Easier said than done, perhaps, but you can start with small steps. Do you love to sing (write, play tennis, carve wood) but find you don't make time for it? Find a teacher and begin lessons, or block out an hour twice a week to practice or engage in the activity. Perhaps you find love a strange word to use so you do not call it love per se; perhaps you call it a deep sense of wishing the very best for those closest to you; and an abiding positive wish for all the best of life for them. This feeling, that many call love is the fountain from which all other blessings flow. Waking up at 5:00 am each morning to some would be unimaginable; to me it is my way of preparing to be an effective mom, mentor and business owner. With urgency, you perform at a higher level of accomplishment. It becomes unacceptable for you not to. Urgency creates a reality that anything is possible or attainable and this is where your creative imagination will uncover a way to make it happen. So should I stop trying to become attractive? More than trying to become physically attractive, work on all aspects of your health: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual. Physical attraction is still a precursor. Remember, biology predisposes us to choose the partner with the healthiest genes. Where your emotions are concerned, just ask this to yourself: would you want to spend time with a person who feels insecure about him/herself?